Let go of Fear

I think we all have fears that hold us back from pursuing what we want or desire in life. We have the fear that if we go for something, change something or try something new the outcome of that might be disastrous. We fear loss, we fear judgment and we fear pain. We all know that if we want to improve our lives we need to let go of the fear that is keeping us away from making those changes.
Do you have fears that are keeping you back from making positives and healthy changes in your life? If so, today is the day to sit down and say, what do I really want in my life and what is keeping me from progressing or even just making the first step of change? Explore those questions and see what is holding you back. Once you identify the fears, you need to flip them around and focus on the gains, joys and positive outcomes that can come from the change. Most of our fears are nothing but negative contemplative thoughts that we make up in our minds. It’s ok to have fears and they are completely normal, you just need to focus your attention not on the fear of what might happen, but the positive outcomes of what will happen. Your mind shouldn’t be saying – I can’t because…but it should be saying – I will because…
I definitely have fears that hold me back at times, but I do feel like I am better able to control the the negative fear talk that goes on in my mind. I’m SOOOO proud of who I am today and I don’t let those fears overcome my thoughts. I use to be consumed in the fear of judgement from others. The fear of being afraid of what others thought held me back from many things in life and they took me down paths of unhealthy behaviors. I thought I wasn’t good enough, skinny enough or pretty enough, so I went to the extreme to “try” and be that. I let those fears control my thoughts. If you let negative fears run your thoughts, they will eventually become your daily thoughts and truth in your mind.  Even though I was and am good enough, I didn’t feel that way because those fears of judgement had become my daily thoughts. Sad, isn’t it?
I don’t feel like I am alone when it come to the fear of judgement and fear of not being enough in others eyes. This fear will do nothing but bring you down and keep you from reaching your full potential of who you really are, which is a beautiful and strong person who IS enough and capable of doing great things.
It’s time to make an action plan to LET GO OF FEAR! Take 10 minutes alone and think about all of the fears you have in your life right now that are keeping you from starting something, progressing in something or bringing you down. Write all of these fear down and ask yourself are these making me a better person, am I accomplishing the things I want in life when I focus on these fears, do these fears make me more confident or produce negative thoughts, are these fears keeping me from starting something I’ve desired to do?
Now is the time to make a change
Now is the time to be a better you
Now is the time to eliminate any negative fears
that are holding you back from become a
happier and healthier you!
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4 Cornerstones of Achievement

I was at a fitness convention a month ago, and one of the session I went to was a talk by Brendon Burchard. I did not know this man, but after listening to him I thought to myself, I need to learn more from him and learn more about him! I’ve spent the last month watching many of his youtube videos, which has honestly been a great way to start off my day and get my mind in the right place.

In the video below he talks about what he believes is the 4 cornerstones of achievement. We all want to achieve something, right? How many times in your life have you stated that you wanted to do something, but have never been able to reach that goal? We’ve all been there and we need to stop saying “this is what I want for myself” but never actually getting there because something always comes in the way. You can’t just say you want something and not have plan or put forth any work towards what you want.

4 Cornerstones of Achievement

DESIRE:

You need to have deep desire to move the needle of your life forward. What’s your vision and what do you want out of life? You need to desire to have that journey that you need to go on to get to where you want to be.

DIRECTION:

You need have a plan of how you’re going to reach your desires/goals. Be a student in life and a master of information on what you desire.

DISCIPLINE:

You have to WORK for what you want. High level of discipline everyday. Set up habits that keep you on track towards your desires and goals. You can not be afraid to work for what you want. You don’t see any high level achievers who doesn’t have some kind of discipline. They are committed to their habits and practices that positively support them on their path to their goals. Don’t make disciplines in your life a negative things, but it should be a joyful habit of pressuring your dreams.

DISTRACTION RADAR:

You need to manage all of those distraction that will get in your way of achieving your desires and goals. Minimize and remove all distractions.

 

Do This Every Sunday

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I love Sundays, it’s a day I spend with my family, go to church, Explore some of the outdoors, and plan ahead what I need to get done for the upcoming week. Every Sunday my husband and I sit down with our kids and talk about our goals for the upcoming week and what we accomplished last week. It’s a great time to sit down as a family and listen to my children talk about what’s important to them.

I am a HUGE believer in goals, realistic goals that is. It’s important to take a step back and look at your life. What do you want to accomplish, who do you want to be, and how can you better yourself. Many of us tend to get stuck in limbo where we do not have any direction of what we want or where we are going. Making simple but effective goals will help guide you in the direction you want to go. Wether your goals are related to fitness, health, or lifestyle, having a written down list of you want to do will help you reach what you desire.

I recently read an article from one of my mentors Todd Durkin about what he does every Sunday. He calls it his W.L.A.G. This will help you plan your week and be more efficient with your time and energy.

WLAG’s Stand for:

  • W- Wins” of the past week
  • L– “Lossess” of the past week
  • A– “Aha” moments of the past week
  • Goals” for the upcoming week

Wins or losses of the past week allow you to pause for a moment on what you did and didn’t accomplish that week. It puts you into a reflective and present state of mind versus thinking “what’s next.”

Aha’s simple allows you to go deeper and think about any/all moments of the last week that made you stop in your tracks or catch your breath.

For example “my aha’s” of this last week:

  • Watching my son build a battle ship out of Lego’s and being amazed by his creativity. 
  • Taking communion at my church and feeling overwhelmed with love from my savior. 

And finally you will write your “GOALS” for the upcoming week. The “GOALS” are simply what you will accomplish in the next 7 days. Don’t make your list too big, but try to limit it down to 3-5 goals that MUST be done this week.

Planning your week is vitally important and will set you up for a successful day and week. Start now by spending some time this Sunday and do your WLAG’s.”

Check out Todd’s website for some more great information.